Recently in my life

This month has been full or twists and turmoils for my family. I have a younger brother who at the time was living with his girlfriend in Charlotte, MI. One night she called the police and accused my brother of Domestic Violence. He had apparently bit her and choked her. He was arrested, spent the night in jail and now is facing some very serious charges. While I in no way condone his actions, I am appalled at the events that follow.

In the state of MI, as the accuser you can no long decide "to press charges or not press charges" when you make a domestic violence crime it now is put completely in the hands of the State. There is an automatic PPO or restraining order against the accused until the issue is resolved in court. So my brother had moved home with my mom for about a week and a half. One weekend while I was at home I stumpled upon some text messages that proved my brother had been violating his PPO and seeing and even spending the night with his girlfriend. I can honestly say that I never felt more hatred toward a person in my life. She appalls me. I find it dispicable that you would call the police to have some arrested and then later want them back? Like I said earlier, my brother made some huge mistakes that should not go unpunished, but this girl just complicated everything that much more.

While I can't, nor do I want to erase my brother from my life I have a hard time wanting anything to do with him if it involves his girlfriend. It pains me to think about holidays and of course my upcoming wedding. My brother is supposed to be an usher, but at this point it is put on hold since he is now facing some Jail time. I don't want to invite the girlfriend to my wedding, but I realize that by doing that I risk not having my brother at or in my wedding either. I decided to put on the invite Mr. ____ ____ & Guest vs. her name hoping she might get the message and decide not to come.

I think what is the most difficult for me is the relationship with my mother. I have watched her bail him out financially for the past few weeks and he has never even so much as said thank you. I realize my mom can't get rid of him either, but it seems like my family is no longer angry at either of them. We are supposed to "let go of the anger". I'm sorry, but i'm not ready, and this is a HUGE deal and not some little petty issue. This girl could possibly be in our lives forever and I'm feel like i'm supposed to sit on the side line and keep my mouth shut about how I really feel. There is a story in the bible that I try to remember and hold on to each day. Luke 15: 11-32. The story is about the son who goes off and squanders his father's money, only to return and the father celebrates his return. The older son is furious and does not want to celebrate as he has worked hard his whole life for his father. The father replies that we must be glad and celebrate since the younger brother was lost and now is found. Story of my life, except I don't really think my brother has been "found" yet. I hope he is some day and that some day we can have a better relationship. I harbor so much anger right now and i'm not really sure how to get over it.....